Ever had somebody give you bad news? Just how about great information? What’s the distinction or is there a difference?
Great information – things or information that makes us pleased, material, comforted, secure as well as confirmed.
Bad news – the opposite.
So, it would certainly show up that there is a distinction between excellent and trouble – continue reading.
Have you ever before gotten bad news however in the long run points thrived or far better than you expected? Have you ever received good news and with time what you thought was great information wound up being not so excellent?
From individual experience I can inform you that I have actually experienced all 4 –
Good news that was excellent.
Bad news that misbehaved.
Great news that I thought was great however wound up misbehaving.
Trouble that I believed was bad and also ended up being excellent.
Confused yet? Well I understand that with time I was frequently confused about the difference in between these 2 obvious opposite messages. But after that I found out that often problem for a single person can be regarded as good news for somebody else which good news to a single person gradually can be viewed as negative.
Baffled? Let me discuss.
In the end it’s just information and also what makes it negative or good or perhaps neutral is not the information itself yet just how we view it, judge it, review it or react because of it.
How can somebody view problem as good you might ask? Or the contrary, how could someone regard excellent information as bad?
Briefly – each of us has a special background, experiences, beliefs and values and also consequently none people ever before see the same thing or circumstance in the same way.
Somebody that is a pessimist, negative, downhearted or impatient could see a delay as negative when one more person who comprehends the idea of there are things we can regulate and also there are things we can’t manage so why get all upset about something you can’t manage or if you can control it obtain busy.
In the end everything that happens – just happens and also what we do is analyze everything based on our expectations, objectives, requires or frame of minds and all of these are unique for each and every people.
Let me give you a number of individual instances. And if you will take into consideration the description despite the fact that you might not have had exactly the same conditions, if you will consider it I’ll be you can associate.
Before gazing my speaking and also training profession I was a nationwide sales supervisor for a global company. Long tale but the short side is I had a problem with my manager, the president and also because of this he terminated me. Trouble, right? Well that was all I required to determine it was time to begin a career that has actually lasted over 40 years and has allowed me to see the globe (25 nations to day) and also deal with some incredible clients as well as target markets. So in the long run this trouble was actually good news.
Here’s an additional quick one.
Years ago I proposed to my wife as well as she said yes. Great information right? (No judgments below please). Well over time after doing my ideal for greater than fifteen years I made a decision that it was time to end it and also why? Well, without the terrible information, the connection was slowly eroding my self-esteem, self-confidence as well as confident mindset as well as I determined that I really did not like who I was coming to be in that partnership. We split, agreeably – yet we parted. Excellent information as I was able – gradually – to reclaim all I had actually shed – psychologically as well as spiritually.
We all have our stories and also all of us can produce listings of excellent news and also problem we have actually received but ultimately it’s all simply news.
Throughout some of my business programs I share this basic concept – stop asking your workers for good information or trouble – just ask for the news and afterwards you choose which it is. Since their definition could be entirely various than your own.
As well as the other way around – as an exec or manager do not program – I have some excellent or problem – just tell your workers you have actually got some information as well as let each of them interpret it as they please based on their individual viewpoints, perspectives, way of thinkings, experience, assumptions as well as just how it might affect them directly.
I wish to make it clear right here that I’m not discussing denial, abandonment, acceptance or lethargy – simply the desire to see that there may be one more side of the tale, one you might be missing due to your history, viewpoints, viewpoints, judgments and so on